Why The @#$%&! Can’t I Get Pregnant When Everyone Around Me Gets Pregnant So Easily?


Why can’t I get pregnant? This is the question on the mind of thousands of women right now, women who are struggling with fertility issues. There are so many different reasons that women can have fertility problems.

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Some have simple solutions, while some have more complex and complicated solutions. Some fertility issues have no solutions at all, as sad as it may seem. Here are some of the most common reasons that women can not get pregnant.

1 You Haven’t Been Trying Long Enough

Many women think that they are having fertility issues, when in all honesty, they just haven’t been trying to get pregnant long enough.

Studies show that women think getting pregnant happens much faster than it actually does. While we are sure there are couples who decide to get pregnant and end up conceiving the same day, week, or even month, those cases are not the norm. It takes an average couple six months to get pregnant from the time that they start trying.

Think you have infertility? You may just not be trying enough.

If you have been trying for six months and you are over age 35, experts suggest seeing a doctor. However, if you are under 35 and trying to get pregnant, experts say that you should not see a doctor until you have been trying for a year or more. The bottom line is, if you think you have been trying too long, you probably haven’t.

2 You Are Having Sex At The Wrong Time

This is another major point that many women miss. You wouldn’t believe how many couples don’t understand that there are only a few short days a month that a woman can get pregnant. If you are not aware of what those days are, and if you are not having sex on those days, you are not going to get pregnant.

Ovulation is when the egg is released from the ovaries to be fertilized. This process happens once a month, usually around two weeks after a woman’s period. This is the only time that a woman can get pregnant. The egg can live for only a few hours after being released, so there are only around five days total that a woman can get pregnant. Make sure that you know when you are ovulating!

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Learn how to track your basal body temperature, learn how to pay attention to your cervical mucus, or buy an over the counter ovulation predictor kit. After you know when you are ovulating, make sure that you are having sex during that time! Many experts suggest having sex the day before ovulation, and then every other day during ovulation so that you can make sure to have the best chance of getting pregnant.

3 You Are Not Ovulating Properly

Many women are unable to get pregnant due to ovulation problems. The lack of normal ovulation is referred to as anovulation, and ovulation problems are actually the most frequent cause of fertility issues in women.

A piece of good news is that around 85% of ovulation fertility issues are treatable. PCOS, or Polycystic Ovarian Syndrome, is one of the leading causes of anovulation, and it is usually very treatable. Doctors also have many different medications that they can prescribe in order to jumpstart ovulation.

Polycystic Ovarian Syndrome is one of the leading causes of anovulation

Clomid is one of the most commonly prescribed fertility drugs and it works in the majority of cases to “trick” the body into ovulating when it doesn’t otherwise want to. Most doctors choose Clomid as a first form of treatment for ovulation problems, and up to 80% of women who take the drug end up ovulating within three months of beginning treatment. If ovulation problems are what is keeping you from getting pregnant, don’t worry about it too much.

See a doctor, and know that there are plenty of treatment options out there.

4 You Don’t Have Enough Quality Eggs Left

This one is a doozy. The basics of it are simple math. Every woman is born with a set number of eggs. This is the number of eggs she will have for her entire life.

Once she begins to menstruate, her body will use one egg each month, over and over again. The body automatically uses the best eggs first. This is why it is so easy for a woman to get pregnant in her early twenties.

As you age, so do your eggs

As a woman gets older her remaining number of eggs gets lower, month by month. By the time a woman approaches age 35, the remaining number of eggs in her body is most likely getting low. The eggs that do remain are not likely to be of optimum quality. Some of these eggs will have trouble implanting properly.

This is why older women are at a higher risk of having a miscarriage. Some of these eggs will not be formed properly or properly developed. This is why older women are at a higher risk of having a baby with a chromosomal abnormality such as Down Syndrome.

Once a woman reaches age 40, in all likelihood, most of her eggs are gone and the possibility of getting pregnant on her own is around 3%. It’s just not very likely at all for a woman over age 40 to get pregnant without a donor egg.

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As you can see, there are many different reasons why a woman might not be able to get pregnant. We have only listed a few of the most common reasons, but there are a ton of other reasons as well.

The truth is, unless you see a doctor and have a complete fertility work up done, no one can say for sure what your fertility problems may be. If you have any doubts about your fertility potential, be sure to ask a doctor so you can work on the issues that may be affecting you.


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Ms. Belanger has 20 years of experience in women's healthcare and nursing, including labor and delivery, postpartum and antenatal. She is passionate toward improving both maternal and fetal outcomes of high-risk obstetrics patients.

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