Why Can’t We Have Another Baby


1. An Unexpected Hardship

When a couple gets pregnant successfully and has a healthy pregnancy followed by a healthy baby, that is great news. However, no one really thinks much about it.

secondary-infertility-affects-up-to-11-percent-of-all-couplesUnfortunately, there are many times when a couple has a baby with no problems, and then later down the line, they are surprised and shocked to find that they have trouble getting pregnant again. When this happens, it is referred to as secondary infertility. Secondary infertility, although we don’t hear much about it, is actually very common. Doctors estimate that it affects up to 11 percent of all couples.

2. The Reasons Who

Doctors aren’t really for sure what causes secondary infertility. Most experts agree that most of the couples who suffer from secondary infertility have always had some form or some degree of fertility issues that perhaps went undetected before.

Sometimes, couples are able to overcome their fertility issue to have a baby, but after the mother gives birth, her fertility issues can once again cause problems in conceiving a second or third child. Sometimes a couple might be able to conceive the first time, but then by the time they are ready to try for another baby, the mother might be older, and her eggs might not be as viable as they were before.


Other times, the man might experience a decrease in his sperm count, sperm quality or sperm motility between the first baby and any subsequent children. There are many reasons for secondary infertility, and sometimes even doctors still can’t explain why it happens.

3. Dealing with Secondary Infertility

Many experts agree that secondary infertility can be more emotionally damaging than primary infertility. This is because, quite simply, couples with primary infertility are often aware of their fertility issues early on, and they expect them.

Couples with primary infertility often “don’t know what they’re missing”, so to speak. Couples with secondary infertility might be blindsided or completely shocked when they realize they have secondary infertility, especially if conception was easy the first time around.


Many couples don’t give a thought to conceiving again after the first time, they just think it will come naturally and easily. Family and friends often don’t understand the concept of secondary infertility, and sometimes say things like “You’re lucky to have one baby”, or “just try harder”.

These unwitting comments can be really hurtful to couples suffering from secondary infertility. It can be very helpful for couples with secondary infertility to join a support group in order to find comfort and support from other parents who are dealing with the same sort of issues.

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Dr. Lynette Weiss is ConceiveEasy's Senior Physician and Scientific Director. She is certified in Obstetrics and Gynecology by the American Board of Obstetrics and Gynecology and is a fellow of the American College of Obstetrics and Gynecology.

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